Montessori Values Explained: The Importance of Tone and Voice Level in the Prepared Environment

NAMC montessori explained importance of tone of voice level mother and child

A few years ago, my family and I were fortunate to spend the Christmas holiday at Disneyworld, ‘The Happiest Place on Earth’. Sadly, for many children, it was not a happy place. Time and time again I heard parents yelling, shouting, and even screaming at their children. What should have been a magical time was indelibly etched into their memories of one of pain, shame, and humiliation.

Children are tender creatures. They are acutely sensitive to the world around them and are much more apt to pick up on how words are said rather than the words themselves. They hate to be shouted at and even if the words are well intended, it is the volume of the message that they hear. One only need witness a cringing child to know that voices raised in frustration or anger can do as much emotional harm as a raised hand inflicts physical pain.

The expectation in the Montessori environment is to speak in a quiet, respectful voice at all times. Using a quiet voice models appropriate inside voice level, limiting the noise level of the Montessori classroom as well as provides a quiet working environment that allows focus and concentration to be on the works.

Montessori Values Explained: The Importance of Tone and Voice Level in the Prepared Environment

It also helps encourage good listening skills. Montessori students come to us assailed by noise – television, computer and video games, and other people. Hearing a calm, quiet voice is effective in getting students’ attention because they are not used to it. At first, the Montessori student attends because of the novelty of it, but later it is understood that this is an appropriate and respectful means of communicating. Usually, being whispered at catches a student’s attention, and therefore he automatically redirects his attention away from inappropriate activity or behavior onto what the Montessori teacher is saying.

NAMC montessori explained importance of tone of voice level teacher and student

The tone of your voice is just as important as the volume. Students are much more likely to listen to a voice that sounds warm and encouraging than to one that sounds harsh and judgmental. A caring and inviting tone of voice communicates our desire to have an atmosphere of acceptance, love, and respect.

It’s not so much what you say

As the manner in which you say it;

It’s not so much the language you use

As the tone in which you convey it;

“Come here!” I sharply said,

And the child cowered and wept.

“Come here”, I said –

He looked and smiled

And straight to my lap he crept.

Words may be mild and fair

And the tone may pierce like a dart;

Words may be soft as the summer air